Since I am currently a parent to a 13 year old girl; we have now entered battlefield category. When she doesn't want to do something and we do want her to do it; she gets a bit stubborn (I have NO idea where she gets this from...oh yeah, me. I have tons more years of experience than her though). After many words discussed and lots of foot stomping and whining; it gets done. Elexis for the most part is a highly respectful kid; especially to other people. She knows though, that I am her parent first and her friend second. She knows that when she is punished that I do it out of love and to keep her safe. She has disrespected me on a few occasions (usually the only thing she really gets in trouble for). I know she does it to push her boundaries and all teens go through it. She has been popped in the mouth (not rough, just to get attention) when she sasses or is rude. I've only done that twice. But, like I said, Elexis is a good kid. We taught her manners and respect from when she was very young.
I don't think that kids today get nearly enough discipline. They are disrespectful not only to their parents, but strangers as well. I have been known to parent a child not my own in a store. Not setting boundaries with your kids leads to disrespect. This will cause them major problems down the road in their adult lives. Manners and respect go a long way in life.
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Harley thinks she is the only kid in the world to ever be popped in the mouth for being disrespectful. LOL! The only excuse that I can think of for not parenting your child is that people are just too lazy! Thank you for being the great parent that you are!
ReplyDeleteI agree. So many of my friends are lazy when it comes to parenting and they wonder why their kid isn't like Elexis. Thank you, sometimes I don't feel like a great parent, but I am glad my child is happy. Sometimes popping in the mouth is the only way to get their attention. You are a wonderful person to take on raising someone else's children (even if they are your grandchildren). You have to undo some bad parenting before you can even start building a good foundation for the kids. You are such an inspiration for doing that. Harley and Darian seem very well adjusted and happy.
DeleteOh, every single day I see the fruits of kids not being disciplined.
ReplyDeleteI know you do, Allison. I thought of you a few times while writing this post. Several of Elexis' teachers have told me they can tell the difference between parents who are parents and parents who are friends.
DeleteLMAO!!! She sounds like me. Especially now that I'm an adult when my mom asks me to do something I have to make this big show about how broken down I am and say "no, I can't do it, I don't wanna" and walk off all slump-shouldered and laughs because she knows I'll do it anyway. Like dinner and a show around here.
ReplyDeleteHaha!! I still do that with my mom too and I live 45 minutes away from her. It's like she has a sense for the thing and call me. Elexis has the foot stomp, eye roll and 'UGH' down perfectly. Yesterday we were at Best Buy and I was looking at new TV's. Elexis says "Mom, do you want me to ask Daddy for a new TV? He can't say no to me. You on the other hand tell me no all the time and immune to my ways." I told her "Who do you think taught you them ways?? I have been perfecting them since before you were born." Haha!! I feel sorry for her future husband...he is getting a princess.
DeleteI agree, children need love and boundaries and they need to learn the consequences of their words and actions. Based on my experience a girl is at her worst when she is 15, a boy when he is 19. Those were hard years in this home for sure BUT they don't last ( I wouldn't have survived if they did lol ) Lisa x
ReplyDeleteLol. Thanks Lisa, now I have something to look forward to...NOT! haha. I am already prepared for them. I know what kind of teen I was, so I am preparing for a handful. My husband says he is just going to pack a bag and leave when that age hits...
DeleteI only dare to be disrespectful towards my mom because with strangers I never know how they will react lol, I think I do it mostly because my mom lets me get away with it, it's not a good reinforcement
ReplyDeleteElexis luckily has only disrespected us. We expect it. I would rather her be able to tell us how she feels than her to be submissive and never feel she has a voice. But, when she gets down right sassy, I will let her know she is still the child! lol
DeleteI have been TEMPTED to pop Josh in the mouth but since he has braces, I'd likely make him bleed and then I'd feel bad... so I just take his phone away. Hurts WAY worse! hahahahahah!
ReplyDeleteYeah, any time blood comes, we get the parent fail. At least you know what works. Since Elexis has a new phone now, we definitely have that to hang over her head. hahaha!
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